My husband Jeramy is always telling me what a good mother, wife, person I am. I usually have a hard time settling with his compliments, not because I don’t believe he means them (I know he does), but because I am quite hard on myself
sometimes a lot of the time. I was thinking about this yesterday, the way we humans are our own worst critics, and what we do to our own self-esteem by comparing ourselves to others. I have come a long way to loving myself and taking pride in who I am over my 30 years, but I still have far to go if I can’t take a compliment from my own husband, my life partner, without feeling the need to reply with: “But…!“
But the house is always cluttered. But Simon went to bed late 2 days in a row. But I never got to the grocery store. But I am so forgetful all the time. But so-and-so can do it better than me. But we ended up eating takeout because I ran out of time to cook. But I went over our budget this week. But…but…but.
I am usually good at finding the positives in even the gloomiest of days, so why do I struggle to find the positive in myself?
Since I know I am not alone in having this problem, I thought I would dedicate today’s post to a little exercise that I urge everyone to try; making a list of the things I am good at, and the things I do everyday to keep the family going. So the next time Jeramy says to me: “Thank you for everything you do, you are such a good Mommy and Wife.“, maybe I can reply and say: “Why thank you, yes I am!”
Here is my list:
~I am good at painting, drawing, printmaking, being artistic.
~I always try to make sure Simon eats a balanced diet.
~I am a good baker.
~I am funny.
~I am intelligent.
~I keep myself aware of current events.
~I am good at coming up with imaginative ways to play with Simon.
~I am a good communicator.
~I schedule all of our family appointments.
~I run most of the family errands.
~I am excellent at reading aloud and do good voices for the characters.
~I work outside the home part-time and am a good employee.
~I care about the planet and am diligent about recycling.
~I have a good eye for photography and take pictures almost every day.
~I know a lot about coffee. (origins, flavor profiles, roasting etc.)
~I do all the family related research, such as reading up on potty training, homeschooling, health, child development, etc.
~I monitor the bank account and pay the bills.
~Though I am not the world’s greatest housekeeper, I do the majority of the housework and keep our home livable.
~I see that all of Simon’s basic needs are met. (change diapers, prepare meals, refill sippy cups, schedule naps, etc.)
~I involve Simon in art, music, and nature activities.
~I love being a hostess and planning an event.
~I update this blog just about every day.
~I make an effort to keep toxic products out of our home and off our bodies.
~I am strict about how much TV Simon sees and what he is exposed to.
~I never yell.
~I type fast.
~I try to get us all out of the house every day.
~I rock Simon before bed and at nap-time and sing lullabies.
~I give kisses and hugs and tend to booboos.
~I really care about others, especially my husband and son.
Boy, it sure is harder to think of strengths than it is to rattle of a list of weaknesses. It is important to do though, and now I feel better!
I urge you to do this too. If you do, please comment and let me know. If you share online, leave a link.